TikToker Married to Man 20 Years Older Answers Age-Gap Critics
A TikTok creator who is married to a man 20 years older than her has responded to the questions and criticism she regularly receives about the age gap. According to the Daily Dot, the user, Jenn, posts as @jennallen_glowupqueen and uses her account to share what her marriage is like.
Her latest video on the topic had 231,400 views and 1,134 comments at the time the Daily Dot published its report.
The comments she hears most
Jenn says she has heard a wide range of remarks about her husband’s age. Some people tell her he will get old before she does. She responds that she knew he was older when they married.
Others ask what the two could possibly have in common. “Apparently enough to get married and still wanna hang out with each other every single day,” she says in the video.
The remark that bothers her most is when people say they could never be in a relationship like hers. Her reply: “Good.” She adds that she is not asking anyone else to marry her husband.
Focusing on how the relationship feels
Jenn says the age difference is something she hardly thinks about anymore. Of meeting her husband, Jason, she says she stopped looking at his age and began paying attention to how she felt around him. She describes feeling safe, respected, chosen and peaceful. After past relationships that felt confusing, chaotic and uncertain, she says those feelings mattered more to her than “the numbers on our birth certificate.”
She does not dismiss the realities of the gap. Jenn says thinking about the future sometimes scares her because she loves him so much. Even so, she says she will not spend the good years they have together fearing years that “aren’t promised.”
In her view, one of the hardest parts of the marriage is knowing that people online will always have an opinion, however much she loves her husband.
Other couples relate
The video struck a chord with other TikTok users in age-gap relationships. One commenter wrote that their husband is 28 years older and that the age issue “sort of just disappears,” adding that people who make it weird are the ones who are weird.
Another said Jenn’s words matched their own marriage with a 33-year age gap, noting that their closest friends do not notice or care.
Other commenters said they were happy for the couple. One wrote that society teaches people age-gap relationships are not acceptable, and suggested that people with very high expectations may never know real love.
The Daily Dot said it could not independently verify the claims made by the creator, which are based solely on her own account in the video.
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